Worldly Love versus God’s Love – a Comparison Chart

In a recent conference with the Center for Biblical Counseling and Discipleship, I was asked to speak on the Husband’s Role in marriage. In that lecture, one of the key ideas is that the husband is to love his wife like Christ loves the church. In that explanation, in our notes, we use the following chart comparing God’s love, which is best known through Jesus, with the world’s love. I want to share that chart with you today.

The World’s Love versus God’s Love – a Comparison Chart

Worldy Love	Godly Love
Love is a feeling	Love is an action
Love is all about me	Love is about those around me
Love is based on what you’ve done for me	Love is unconditional
Love is a phase (temporary)	Love is a commitment
Love is about getting	Love is giving
Love is about receiving	Love is about serving
Love is about sex	Love is about physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy
Love focuses on getting my own needs met	Love focuses on meeting the needs of those around me
Love withers in conflict	Love works through conflict
Love is bitter	Love is forgiving
Love gets stuck in the past	Love moves forward
Love is about hiding and covering up	Love is about transparency
Love is about suspicion	Love is about trust
Love is about blame	Love is about responsibility
Love is about anxiety	Love is about peace

Unknown author of the chart, from notes used at Sonrise by Bill Piatt.