Help Me Find a Loving Dentist
Can you help me find a loving dentist?
I’m not interested in a loving person who simply hates plaque and cavities. I do not want him to offer wise suggestions based upon what he knows about teeth. Instead, it would be nice for him to just agree with me about my teeth and my diet. I don’t want anyone who will suggest mouth wash, flossing, or brushing – or make me feel badly for not using them.
In fact, I simply want one who will agree with all my decisions related to my mouth.
I want friends who will agree with me and a dentist that does as well.
I don’t want to hear about his opinion, and what he believes the medical books mean. That’s simply just the way he has been taught by other haters. Since he is so passionate about what he has learned, which is the opposite of how I feel or believe, that just demonstrates the magnitude of how wrong he really is. All he has done is accept what others have taught for years and passed on to him.
I don’t care how much he says it has helped others, I don’t like it. I feel differently and think differently than he does. Because of that, I don’t want to hear any of it from him or anyone who might think like him. He doesn’t even really love or like me. If he did, he would see what I’m saying as my truth and affirm me in it.
I realize that all dentists learn, have to pass a written examination, and must past a clinical examination. But, they just learn what the traditional licensing board teaches them. Dentists in the American Dental Association simply teach the next generation the same things they were taught. It is all tradition. That does not make them right though.
Why do they insist on thinking about teeth and dental work only the way they desire to do so?
I think I want a dentist outside the norm. No mainline association. Just one who loves me and all my choices.
I get so tired of going to the dentist and hearing about wise ways to do teeth care. He and my dental hygienist refuse to accept what I tell them as best. They keep referring to medical books and reading them in a particular way, instead of my way. In fact, since it disagrees with me, I question the authors of the book or school they attended.
I realize you said he’s a great guy and the receptionist is friendly. Plus, everybody there seems to care about me and wants to show love to me. I get all of that – but that has to be deception because he’s not saying or accepting what I want truly want. In my mind that seems like hate. Why is he trying to tell me that my opinion is wrong when I know the way I feel, I know what is best for my teeth, and I know what is best for me. I never remember choosing this; I believe it is the way I have always felt.
I’m convinced that all dentists truly want is my money. I think that’s why they want to schedule follow up appointments and do continual care.
I appreciate how much my dentist volunteers his services to the poor, helps those that are underprivileged, and does free work for so many in my community. But that still does not make him right, nor does it make him a loving person really. If he’s only going to do all of those things with the opinion that he has, he’s a hater anyway to all of us who believe differently.
The toothpaste they recommend does not taste good. It does not make my mouth feel good either. In fact, one of my friends recommended a better dentist office that only serves ice cream with sprinkles and brownies, plus offers sugar-based mouthwash with bubblegum toothpaste.
My neighbor suggested not going to any dentist at all, and, instead, go fishing. He explained his dentist office was on a boat ramp. He encouraged me to go and enjoy eating whatever I want as I fish and hunt. He went further encouraging me on some days to enjoy brats and hotdogs at the game, too. That is just his opinion, but I like it.
I’m just not sure what to do, but one thing I am certain of… I am not interested in the old traditional dentist down the street with the dental hygienist that complains about my lack of flossing while insisting to scrape my teeth, poke around in my mouth, and blast my teeth with cold water. It seems to me that what I want, how I take care of my teeth, and when I eat should be private. Even though he is a dentist and the others work with him, he has no business being in my mouth. What I want to eat, how I treat my teeth, and how often I go to the dentist should be totally up to me. It is plainly not his business.
As he is getting ready to do something in my mouth, he always says, “This may make you uncomfortable.” Yet, he says and does it anyway. If he truly loves me, he would affirm me instead of make me uncomfortable, cause me pain, or disagree with me.
He simply needs to accept me and love me – just as I am.
And don’t get me started on my general practitioner. He wants to talk about diabetes, cholesterol, exercise, body mass index, and a bunch of other stuff that have nothing to do with the way I choose to live with my teeth, in my opinion.
Can you help me find the best dentist for me?
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